Tell him how you truly feel………..lay all your cards on the table…….tell him the changes you want and how you both can work on improving things and no more ‘blame’ mechanism kicking in…………deal with the shit that can help shape the relationship how you both want it……..happiness is the ultimate conclusion to come from the relationship carrying on……don’t hold it in and make yourself into someone you don’t want to be……….own your presence and not be a shadow to keep the peace…..life is way too short to be miserable.